Back in February, before the whole Ben Weasel incident, UK-based zine I Live Sweat started posting stories about sexism in the punk scene written by women who are quite active in said scene. The first in the series was written by Lauren Denitzio of The Measure [SA], which you can read about here, and this newest post comes to us from Mariel Loveland, vocalist/guitarist of Candy Hearts.
In her piece, Mariel talks about the first time she didn’t feel safe at show, when at 15, “[she] was shoved right into the middle [of the pit and] . . . immediately tried to look for a way out but was completely surrounded, and no matter how much I pushed, I couldn’t move. I was getting punched, kicked, and pummeled until I eventually fell down, and all I could see was a wave of dust and sneakers kicking and stepping on me. I couldn’t get up, and I couldn’t breathe. I choked on dirt and started sobbing until one man, probably someone’s dad, heard me screaming for help. He reached underneath the crowd and threw me over his shoulder. As he was pulling me away, I heard one voice cut through the music: “That’s why you don’t bring your little girl to shows.””
That was 7 years ago. Nowadays, Mariel identifies herself as, “a 22-year-old, straight, petite, overtly-feminine female who weighs just over 100lbs. I am different than the typical male in even the smallest of ways. I can’t even carry my own amp out of the van because I’m not strong enough.” She also notes the power of being a woman in the punk scene saying, “Our bodies and our choice to have or not have sex are pretty powerful. It’s something that is ours—something that every guy who’s ever wanted to sleep with the girl in the band doesn’t have—and we can do with it whatever we want.”
Read the entire entry here.
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